Wise words from Stanton Peele on addiction in Pacific Standard:
“The primary development since 1975 is the realization that addiction is not a byproduct of drugs, but applies equally to every powerful involvement.”
He goes on to say that when he published his groundbreaking book, Love and Addition, in 1975, the only thing considered addictive was heroin. “Love and Addition instead addressed addiction as a life issue. That a love relationship could be exactly as addictive as heroin meant that addiction didn’t spring from a drug’s chemistry. Rather, an addiction is an overwhelming destructive involvement with a powerful experience that provides essential emotional rewards for the addicted person.”
A must read if you’ve ever felt consumed by an addiction to someone else.